Beyond the Abyss:
Turning Pain into
Power and Purpose
Unlock Your Potential with
Elena Stevens
My childhood home was filled with the echoes of my mother’s cries and the sharp sting of her rage. My parents’ constant fighting painted my world in shades of fear and despair. When my mother’s grief became too much to bear, I became her outlet—an innocent target for her pain.
I tried to escape the darkness—cutting my veins, swallowing pills, and praying for the pain to stop. And many times, I stood on the brink of death, consumed by hopelessness.
When my father left for Russia, the weight of the world fell heavily on my young shoulders. My mother spiraled into alcoholism, and I became the caretaker for her and my eight-year-old brother, trying to shield him from a world that had already crushed me. My mother attempted suicide several times, and I was always there to rescue her. But one night, I was too late. My mother was gone. My father took my brother back to Russia, and after my mother's death, he became an alcoholic, turning my young brother into a shadow of himself buried in spirits.
I hated my mother, I hated myself, I hated my father,
I hated life!
Consumed by shame, hatred, and overwhelming guilt for not saving my mother, it felt unbearable.
The Search for Answers.
Determined to make sense of my pain, I threw myself into the study of psychology, earning a master’s degree. I thought understanding the mind could heal my body, mind and soul, but it didn’t. Therapy felt like putting a bandage on a wound that continued to bleed repeatedly. Something very important was missing, and I observed the same results in my clients during consultations; the ongoing trauma was caught in a vicious cycle. I learned many different approaches, including NLP, hypnosis, rapid personal transformation, and many more. Yet my pain remained raw and relentless.
I got married, believing that love would be my salvation. Instead, I found myself feeling just like my mother. My world was shattered again when we lost our newborn daughter; the grief engulfed me completely. I fell into the same destructive cycle I had spent my life trying to escape—alcohol became my refuge. My days blended into nights, and my dreams faded into a numbing haze.
It felt like my story would end the same way my mother’s did, but God had other plans.
One day, a friend invited me to a Systemic Constellation session. I had no idea what it was, but desperation made me say yes. I’ll never forget that day.In one session, something significant shifted. For the first time, I was able to see all the hidden negative dynamics at play. I recognized how patterns of trauma—my mother’s despair and my father’s abandonment—had been passed down like invisible chains. For the first time, I realized I could break those chains. I also had the opportunity to meet my mother from a different perspective and reconnect with her on a deeper level. It was as if a door had opened to a new way of seeing life—one where healing wasn’t just possible; it was inevitable.
I quickly found the Institute of Systemic Constellations and became a systemic constellations facilitator, diving deeper into this method that had shown me profound insights when nothing else could. At last, I reclaimed my life, my identity, my purpose, and my joy.
Transforming Pain into Purpose
Today, I am a mother of four and a globally recognized expert in systemic constellations. I am also the author of various systemic approaches for addressing different levels of trauma and the founder of the Academy of Education, where I train psychologists and coaches to facilitate Systemic Constellations.
For the past 14 + years, I’ve guided thousands of people through their transformation journeys. Through group and individual sessions, I’ve helped clients reconnect with their inner resources, release the traumas held in their bodies, and find peace in their hearts.
My work isn’t just about healing individuals- it’s about breaking the cycle of pain for future generations. Systemic Constellations have shown me that we are all deeply connected to our families, ancestors, and the collective human experience. Why I Do What I DoI didn’t choose this path—it chose me. My life’s pain became my purpose.
The lessons I learned through my suffering are now the foundation of my work. When I see my clients’ faces light up with newfound hope, when I witness their tears of release, when they tell me they’ve found the courage to live again- I know I’m fulfilling the promise I made all those years ago.